When to quit and when to fight

A lot of young people ask me for advice on Instagram and I help them privately but I’m going to start publicly addressing things as well for those who may need it but don’t want to ask.


Young man asked me "When will I know I'm at the end and it's time to quit fighting for my dream/relationship/idea/situation?". My answer at first was never give up, but then I decided to give some more realistic advice:


Once you lose the will to fight for it, it could be over. 


- When you feel that achieving your dream/idea is no longer your main priority, and you've lost your passion for it, it’s close to being over. When you wake up in the morning and the first thing on your mind isn’t, “what can I do today to achieve my dream?”, it may be over. 


- When your relationship/situation is no longer a 50/50 union but it’s more of one partner caring more than the other, it’s headed towards being over. Once you let the mundaneness of being around each other put the spark out, it’s headed toward being over. Once you feel like the attention you receive from your partner isn’t enough and now you’re seeking it from others or your partner lacks interest/support in whatever you’re doing, it’s headed towards being over. 


- Now that you have an idea of what the ends looks like, it’s your responsibility to make sure you are doing everything you can to prevent these scenarios. Do not let your passion fade while on the pursuit of achieving your dream. Do not let the relationship get dull and lose it's spark. 


- In reality though, God has the final say. What you want for yourself may not be what God has for you. Maybe your dream or relationship isn’t working because God is letting you know that you are thinking too small, or that it's time to move forward and grow, something better is waiting for you. This is why it’s important to be in tuned with your inner self and to keep your spirit clean so you’ll be able to listen and hear God when it’s time to move on or when you should continue to fight. God will give you the signs you need to make your decision.